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An Unexpected Messenger

An Unexpected Messenger

At face value, extreme fear (i.e. Terror) is this overwhelming, draining, malignant dragon. It’s the beast behind not having enough toilet paper, going out in public (or being asked to stay at home when we don’t want to), big social changes, etc, etc. Its terms...
Worth Fighting For

Worth Fighting For

I was bullied growing up. There was something about having red hair and glasses that seemed to make me a target. I didn’t look like the other boys who got the girls’ attention. Oh how I desperately wanted that attention. “What’s wrong with me?” I would ask...
30,000 Wildflowers

30,000 Wildflowers

I didn’t want to plant my wildflowers this year. For years I’ve bought a sack of 30,000 wildflower seeds in early February and then guerilla garden them like Johnny Appleseed on any patch of ground needing beauty. This year I bought my seeds around the New Year. I...
Caring for Relationships During A Crisis

Caring for Relationships During A Crisis

Over the years we develop ways to cope with, manage or mitigate stress. A lot of those are even really great things. We may walk, meditate, practice yoga, exercise, talk with a friend, go to recovery meetings, go to therapy, the list goes on. Sadly, not even the best...
Grieving Our Losses

Grieving Our Losses

Amid all the devastation and panic leveled on our city recently, there is much to grieve. Much has been lost. Many dreams and hopes have vanished. In the natural disaster that shocked our city, some unnatural things happened. People not only lost their homes and...
Normal Never Felt So Good

Normal Never Felt So Good

When a crisis hits, it is inherently disorienting. That’s what makes it a crisis. The disorientation of the chaos is what makes us start asking “What do I do?”, “Where do I go?”, and we feel like we have lost all control. The truth is, we never had much control in the...
From the Crater of Rock Bottom

From the Crater of Rock Bottom

It’s easy to focus on the destruction of a rock bottom when you are lying in the crater of it. It’s easy to miss the tiny key of freedom that’s given in exchange for having our world turned upside down. In recovery rooms across the globe the phrase...
Living Life On Life’s Terms

Living Life On Life’s Terms

What does it mean to live life on life’s terms? It is to say, “OK, Life, I see you. I don’t really like what you are saying or doing, but I am choosing not to ignore you. I am going to take you at face value and just do the next right thing.” It means to take each day...
To Those on the Frontlines: We See You

To Those on the Frontlines: We See You

To the doctors, nurses, and healthcare workers, We will never be able to thank you for the sacrifices you are making for our safety and wellbeing. We cannot understand what it is like for you to risk your own lives for ours. We don’t have a way to repay you for your...
The In-Between

The In-Between

My friend Kenny first introduced me to the concept of “liminal space”. It is taken from the Latin word limen, which means “threshold”. Liminal space is the place of waiting, the place of not knowing, the in-between space where we are not where we used to be, but we...
The Gift of Easter in the Time of Quarantine

The Gift of Easter in the Time of Quarantine

My 8-year-old son is very disappointed that his Annual Easter Egg Hunt had to be canceled this year. And rightfully so. He’s grieving the loss of one of his favorite traditions. For the past few years, he has delighted in sending out invitations, filling the plastic...
10 Self Care Ideas While at Home

10 Self Care Ideas While at Home

If you stroll down the streets of your neighborhood right now, it’s likely you’ll see a lot of parked cars lining the curbs and driveways. Walk a little further and you’ll pass cafes, restaurants and shops with their lights off and doors locked....
Hope & Healing

Hope & Healing

In light of so much going on in the world that (rightfully) brings up fear, I believe it is important and helpful to remember how we were made. First, we were made to feel. Your fear is normal. It actually brings about clarity around things that can seem murky or...
When your heart beats fast

When your heart beats fast

“My heart beats so hard, I feel like I have an earthquake inside of me. It’s weighing me down and my hands shake with the need of safety and comfort.” -Karen Quan There are points in everyone’s story where life happens and we must respond. The...
Anxiety and The “Good Enough” Parent

Anxiety and The “Good Enough” Parent

We all need a safe place, where we can tell the truth about our daily struggles and be cared about without fear of rejection. So often anxiety is increased by not having a place to struggle and experience security at the same time. The “good enough” parent can create...
Everything is Different

Everything is Different

Watching TV tonight I couldn’t help but notice that every commercial contained some reminder of how life used to be. Remember when we used to give each other high fives? Remember when there used to be sports on TV every night? Remember when we used to eat out and go...
A Letter to Our Medical Professionals

A Letter to Our Medical Professionals

Dear nurses, doctors, healthcare professionals, and first responders, You are no stranger to sickness, suffering, and death. You willingly enter its chaos every workday, and are the first to volunteer your skills and bedside manner on your day off. For that, we thank...
Limitations

Limitations

In a world that rewards us for moving at a dizzying pace, it is often hard to remember that we are limited creatures. We have physical bodies, we live in particular places in space and time, and we have needs. Meanwhile, technology tells us that we can transcend time...
The Struggle Through Fear

The Struggle Through Fear

I picked up the phone and called someone when I found myself looking at something called a “bathtub bladder”. A bathtub bladder is a big rubber ball that you install in your bathtub to store drinking water. I connected with a good friend of mine and I told him the...
An Opportunity for Hope

An Opportunity for Hope

My fellow human beings, there is no doubt that we are in the midst of hard times. The recent tornado that tore through parts of Nashville, the political divide that continues to separate our country, and now, the ramifications of Covid-19 on our day-to-day lives are...
What if? What then?

What if? What then?

Have you ever thought to yourself, “If I could just know the future, then everything would be ok.” This kind of magical thinking troubles a lot of us. It’s called anxiety, and thoughts like this carry the potential for a lot of wasted energy. Anxiety is a powerful...
Let us postpone nothing.

Let us postpone nothing.

Let us postpone nothing. Let us balance life’s account every day. -Seneca What a beautiful sentiment. Postpone nothing. Balance life’s account. Daily. Just breaking it down like this makes me breathe slower…more mindfully. What does it even mean to...
Six Truths of Singleness

Six Truths of Singleness

At times our culture seems to glamorize and idolize romance and marriage. Meanwhile this beautiful narrative of singlehood can get overlooked. I believe these years are full of meaning and purpose. I’ve compiled six truths about singleness that help us better live...
5 Characteristics of Healthy Relationships

5 Characteristics of Healthy Relationships

Among the many characteristics that grow a healthy relationship, five markers stand out as foundationally significant. These five characteristics give opportunity for others to trust us, to want to be with us, and to be close to us: These five characteristics give...
Releasing Resolutions

Releasing Resolutions

We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.  – Joseph Campbell How often do our best-laid plans go awry? Once in a lifetime? Twice? Too many to count? We begin each year with resolutions. We turn over...