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Anxious for the Holidays

Anxious for the Holidays

This season I have been counting down every day until Christmas. I have been playing all of the classic Christmas songs from Bing Crosby to Amy Grant. However, there is still an emptiness I feel. The fear comes up when I have a second to sit still. Anxiety has a tight...
Fear and the Unknown

Fear and the Unknown

We do not truly fear the unknown. In reality, we fear a recurrence of painful events we have already experienced, seen, or know have happened to someone else. This fear of recurrence is experiential and understandable. Nevertheless, it can trap us in a cycle. The...
Humiliation Doesn’t Have to Be

Humiliation Doesn’t Have to Be

Is the experience of humiliation normal? Although the experience of humiliation is extremely common, it is not normal. We were born with the emotional tools not to be reduced by the power of its attack. However, if we are not raised to use the tools, or do not learn...

How to Love a Friend in Crisis

Calls to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK have increased 25% since the recent deaths of two very notable people. The highly publicized deaths have shaken people with shock, fear, and awareness. The increases in calls are from friends of...

Music and Melancholy

As one who is all too familiar with the realities and exhausting effects of depression, I find myself looking for ways to describe it in a more tangible way to myself and the people in my life. The difficulty is that, unlike other infirmities, you cannot see...

Five Common Pitfalls for Leaders

Leaders find much fulfillment in serving others. Whether it’s serving as a CEO or a parent, leaders most significant moments come when they are giving their gifts, abilities, passion, and creativity. Even so, leaders who pour out great energy doing what is fulfilling...

Anxiety and Fear

Anxiety takes us away from what is true and makes us fretful, distrustful, impulsive, and controlling. In anxiety, we rob ourselves of daily living and its experience. Instead of living in the present we try to control our future in order to prevent a recurrence of...

Transitions

The Cost of Gladness A friend of mine told me a story of entering the seventh grade middle school. He’s a grown man, now; flies for FedEx. In fact, he is the captain that does check rides with other pilots to make sure they are topnotch. Basically, he is master of his...

New Beginnings

By Beth Gillem With fall quickly approaching, it seems that the mad rush to do all the “lasts” of summer begins and the “to do” lists for the start of fall rapidly grow. It happens every year. There is an implied ending and beginning that happens in September....

When Putting On Weight is a Good Thing

If you have been in a Sage Hill Counseling office in the past year, you may have noticed a chunky blanket draped over a couch or chair. These quirkily shaped blankets are stuffed with heavy beads in varying weights. You may be wondering why a counseling center has...

Life as Art

Have you ever thought to yourself, “If I could just know the future, then everything would be ok.” This kind of magical thinking troubles a lot of us. It’s called anxiety, and thoughts like this carry the potential for a lot of wasted energy. Anxiety is a powerful...

Unfreezing Trauma

Things happen in life sometimes that we cannot explain or anticipate. When these events are painful, it’s hard to let them go. Maybe you’ve said this before: “If I only would have known.” “WHY?” “Wait, what happened?”...

Anxiety is quite the Storyteller

Anxiety sucks. Not many will argue with that. Because of how scary anxiety is, it’s hard to believe it is anything other than something to avoid. But beyond its very real terror, anxiety is trying to tell us something important. Anxiety is an internal...

Dealing with Holiday Stress

My daughters were born on Halloween and New Year’s Day. That means that nearly all of our family “holidays” are crammed into about a 45 day window. I’d like to think that, somehow, my holidays are more stressful than yours. But that’s not really true. The Holidays...

What if? What then?

Have you ever thought to yourself, “If I could just know the future, then everything would be ok.” This kind of magical thinking troubles a lot of us. It’s called anxiety, and thoughts like this carry the potential for a lot of wasted energy. Anxiety is a powerful...

STRESS: Where does it come from?

What is stressing you out? Work? Family? Money? All of these? Maybe your football team is stressing you out. Or your car. Maybe it’s that relationship ghost that’s been haunting you for the last 10 years. Or your addiction. Or the decision you have to make by the end...