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Re-membering

Every year at my elementary school we had a spaghetti supper, followed by games set up at booths in the gymnasium. All of us kids had a ball. It was a fundraiser, which I didn’t really even think about. I just wanted to buy tickets to do the contests in order to win...

Your Best Life Now

We are amazingly created and creative. We are born with essential capacities that become the ability to dream of a future, imagine it, hope for it, even hunger and thirst for it. We can have a passion for our dreams and work toward their fulfillment. Our ability is a...

Fundamental Sounds and Sights

    I dropped one of my teenage sons off at a baseball field for warm-ups before a game, and headed back down a two lane road to an old store we had passed on the way to the baseball field. The store was built in the 1800s, back when horse and mule drawn...

Good Things Happen

We have been told or figured out four ways that life works. These four thoughts are how we summarize life’s blessings, injustices, unfairness, and pain. We use the statements in an attempt to make life make sense, to allow us to have a sense of control, to let us...

Creation, Creatures and Creating

Dr. Marian Diamond, a neuroscientist, overturned long-held beliefs by proving through research that environmental factors can change the brain and that the brain can be developed over a lifetime. Before her research began in the mid-1960s the established belief was...

Transitions

A friend of mine told me a story of entering the seventh grade middle school. He’s a grown man, now; flies for FedEx. In fact, he is the captain that does check rides with other pilots to make sure they are topnotch. Basically, he is master of his...

Comparing can Contaminate

In spite of all the different levels of outward adornment, no one has it made, and no one really has it easy. Everyone has turmoil. Examples are love, loss, worry, the future, and death. In fact, the more one faces this reality as life on life’s terms, the greater our...

Fear and the Dark

Any child, who is still allowed to be a child, will ask for help to go into the dark. We, the big people, need to listen to this expression of need. Through a child’s clear expression of vulnerability, which means susceptibility to wounds, a child can find comfort in...

Feelings are a Blessing

Years ago I wrote a book titled The Voice of the Heart: A Call to Full Living. It is about feelings and living how we are created to live. That was almost twenty years ago. I have continued to work in the field of “living life on life’s terms” and continue to...

Three Things to Live By

I believe that three characteristics of the heart make the difference between a life well lived in which we persevere and generate versus a life we survive and stagnate. The three characteristics extend from the core of a person into the behaviors one exhibits. They...

Hypocrisy, Imperfection, and Relationship

When we practice professing beliefs, feelings, or virtues of the heart that we DO NOT really hold or possess, we present hypocrisy. When we practice professing beliefs, feelings, or virtues of the heart that we really DO hold or possess, we inevitably present...

Sarcasm Makes Us All Small

Sarcasm is everywhere in our social and familial interactions, communicating cynical, sardonic, caustic, contemptuous oblique messages. It threatens to shut down the inspiration of hope and courage. Sarcasm is used as a form of presuming superior awareness—“being in...

Artists Work Hardest

Artists work harder than others, and a lot more artists exist than are recognized as such. This opening statement may require a story further exploring an artist and their work, because it pushes against a well-accepted cliché about artists “not really...

The Good Can Be Mistaken For The Best

A great deal is assumed about understanding as a solution to all kinds of conflicting problems among us. Understanding can create categories of awareness and can communicate information formerly not known about the intricacies of differences. However, understanding is...

Greatness Has a Context

A twenty-something friend of mine and I were recently talking about vocations and fulfillment. He said that he didn’t buy into the idea of “doing what you love” in the way he’d understood many people to mean it. He thought the word “passion” was...

The Strange Blessing of Regret

I have said many times that when a person loves another, especially spouses and children, that person has signed a contract of pain. Even the overwhelming joy of love has the sorrow of wistfulness in it. Just remember that fabulous day at the beach years ago, for...

The Benefits of Being Able to Hurt

Life is hard and life hurts. Hurt is the emotional and spiritual cry within us that lets us know that we have pain. It is the common thread that runs through all emotional and spiritual experiences—even gladness. Hurt is the pain in our . . .loneliness that...

Four Realities I’m Learning

As much as I wish or imagine, life on this earth is not eventually going to turn out the way I want it to. I’m not wishing to drop a gray cloud bomb on a bright and colorful day. Life can be so wonderful, I want two lives at once, or three, maybe, so all of us can...

How Pride Can Hurt Us

A way to avoid the feeling of guilt and its internal call to bring us to seeing our own part in relationship is by hanging on to blame. Blame becomes a wall between our hearts and seeing our own actions. It can be a way for us to avoid our own humanity.Blame judges...

Empathy and the Heart of Us

What makes facing and knowing our own hearts so vital? The heart is the record-keeper of our life’s emotional and spiritual experiences. It is our “life-lived memory.” Out of it we remain compassionate and generous, truthful and confessional, humble and celebratory....

How Do I Live Now?

Two hundred years from now, two little children are playing on the beach at the water’s edge. The sand sparkles white. The ocean rolls in with the sound of itself that makes everything else backbeat to its constant rhythm. The sky is pure in its blue, with wispy...

The Spiritual Root System™

In 1991 I developed a way of understanding, experiencing, and expressing one’s internal makeup called the Spiritual Root System™. Since its inception, the Spiritual Root System™ has been used in assisting thousands of people. It expresses in detail the...

Fear and the Unknown

We do not truly fear the unknown. In reality, we fear a recurrence of painful events we have already experienced, seen, or know have happened to someone else. This fear of recurrence is understandable, and yet it can trap us in a vicious cycle. When we get stuck in a...

The Fingerprints of God

In the gospel of John there is a story of Jesus giving sight to a blind man on a Sabbath day. The man had been blind since birth. Jesus spit into dirt, made two “salves,” and then pressed them onto the man’s eyes. He then told the man to go wash in the pool of Siloam....

When I Was A Child

Every year at my elementary school during the fall, we had a spaghetti supper followed by a festival of games. The supper came before the games that were set up in the gymnasium and other classrooms. It was a fundraiser, which really didn’t mean much to us children. I...