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I Believe it Like Air

I want to share something about Christmas. Before I do, however, I want to state that I have seen enough, experienced enough, learned enough, and have lived long enough to disbelieve what I say below if I were ever going to do so. But I cannot not believe it. It is in...

Sadness and Honor

Sadness honors the loss that comes with change. In a world where change and loss are inevitable, the willingness to have sadness allows us to remain fully alive. Put another way, sadness is part of feeling and healing loss that allows us to risk caring and attaching...

Gladness and Pain

Gladness comes to us as an outcome of being adept at the other seven feelings we carry inside of us. The other seven feelings are fear, hurt, sadness, loneliness, anger, shame, and guilt (The Voice of the Heart). Our feelings allow us to respond to life on life’s...

Core Expressions of Healthy Shame

Healthy shame is the beginning of humility and risk-taking. When we awaken to how alike we are in heart and how we all carry the same inborn neediness, the healthy shame of being human awakens the following: I need you and you need me. I make mistakes and you do, too....

The Benefit of Guilt

Guilt grows out of healthy shame, and healthy shame allows me to acknowledge neediness, experience humility, identify limitations, admit mistakes, weep in sadness, wish for better, and grow in empathy and conscience as a human being. Here is how healthy shame and...

Sickness of Rage vs. Truth of Anger

Rage is a deeply impaired experience of fear, a fear that a person cannot and/or will not tolerate. Rage is a closed fist to ward off or destroy something or someone to eradicate vulnerability. Anger exposes us to vulnerability, because it shows the internal caring...