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Small Matters Matter

My sixteen year old, youngest son and I pulled into the driveway one night on the way home from youth service at church. William was suffering from a significant muscle tear in his hip, a baseball injury. Even more, though, he ached from the heart pain of loss. He had...

Allowing Yourself to Be Weak

A little over a year ago, I had the unfortunate experience of skiing knee first into a tree. In the days and weeks that followed, my body displayed the physical ramifications of this accident in ways I was unable to hide. The physical pain was terrible, but the...

The Benefits of Being Able to Hurt

Life is hard and life hurts. Hurt is the emotional and spiritual cry within us that lets us know that we have pain. It is the common thread that runs through all emotional and spiritual experiences—even gladness. Hurt is the pain in our . . .loneliness that...

Four Realities I’m Learning

As much as I wish or imagine, life on this earth is not eventually going to turn out the way I want it to. I’m not wishing to drop a gray cloud bomb on a bright and colorful day. Life can be so wonderful, I want two lives at once, or three, maybe, so all of us can...

Dealing with Difficult People

While a bear from the wild may be captured to live in a zoo or trained to ride a bike in the circus, for the most part, wild bears do what wild bears do.   Several years ago, while trying to emphasize a point about how to deal with difficult people, I began to pick on...

How Pride Can Hurt Us

A way to avoid the feeling of guilt and its internal call to bring us to seeing our own part in relationship is by hanging on to blame. Blame becomes a wall between our hearts and seeing our own actions. It can be a way for us to avoid our own humanity.Blame judges...

Empathy and the Heart of Us

What makes facing and knowing our own hearts so vital? The heart is the record-keeper of our life’s emotional and spiritual experiences. It is our “life-lived memory.” Out of it we remain compassionate and generous, truthful and confessional, humble and celebratory....